Writings · Essays & Letters
Putting what we have lived into words is its own kind of healing.
I write about grief, trauma, ceremony, belonging, and the challenging work of remaining in relationship with what is real.
These essays are not written from outside the questions. They emerge from lived experience, from the people and places that teach me, and from listening long enough for something true to become visible.
Writing is another way of tending.
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Featured Essay · June 20, 2026
Ustedes Son
Nómadas
A teacher’s grief, a hunger I recognized, and what it costs to mistake longing for belonging.
Read Ustedes Son NómadasMaybe what’s missing isn’t a sharper definition of ceremonial. Maybe it’s fewer people trying to own the word, and more people willing to tend what it’s supposed to protect.
Not as a title. Tending isn’t a credential received once. To tend a fire. To tend a relationship. To tend a wound, a plant, the distance between what you long for and what you’re actually responsible to.
There’s no certificate in tending. No final arrival. Only the work that has to be done again tomorrow.
From the Archive
Selected Writing
Purpose & Belonging
What Do I Belong To?
Read the Essay“Perhaps the emptiness we call a lack of purpose is sometimes the emptiness of disconnection.”
Trauma & Capacity
The Other Side
Read the Essay“What our pain is asking for is not a way out. It is space.”
Cacao & Ceremony
Before It Was Ceremonial, It Was Real
Read the Essay“It was not ceremonial cacao. It was not a ceremony. And it was completely real.”
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